When doing spiritual work for a client, it is best practices to first have a consultation before starting any candles, constructing any love charm, or doing any graveyard or other location-driven rituals. This is because the worker needs to have full access to the information regarding the situation before said worker expounds their expertise on the issue at hand. I think it could be said that a great majority of clientele, however, wants immediate action and results of said work of the root worker or spiritualist, without any consideration that the client themselves compounded their own situation because of their own delay.

For example, a woman calls a worker, and explains in her consultation that she ‘threw out’ her boyfriend three months ago, and just now, has started having regrets on doing so. When faced with the length of time it would take a worker to do any “backtracking” work to heal the time spent apart, the client may balk and comment on the time and financial investment such work would consume. It is then the client realizes that she called the fireman to come put out the fire after her house had been burnt to the ground, so to speak. The time to make that call for a reconciliation work or candle be lit for the conflict between two people is once the door slammed closed and the silence is deafening  – if not shortly thereafter. Certainly love work should have been considered when things got a little rough, before he left.


“The waiting is the hardest part
Every day you get one more yard
You take it on faith, you take it to the heart
The waiting is the hardest part
Yeah, the waiting is the hardest part”
The Waiting – Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers


Now at the time, the woman thought “the grass is greener” or “too many fish in the sea”, and by most accounts, everybody thinks that. What has to happen is she needs time away to THINK about the outcomes she is causing herself, and clean them up, before moving onto the next person. There was a Biblical law about a woman needing to wait approximately three months between men to make sure she was not carrying a child created with the former man. Not only this is good sense when ti comes to the paternity of a child, but also to do spiritual healing and cleansing before taking a new love into your home – and bed. It has been said that each time you are with a different person, you are ethereal connected with each of their former partners as they are ethereal connected  with each of your former partner. This by interacting with them, you will create an etheric cord with them. An energetic cord will extend out of you and connect with that person. It literally can be as simple as where you place your focus you will cord it.



Etheric cords can attach in certain areas of the body which are more common. For example, etheric cords that connect at and around the solar plexus chakra (personal power) tend to be from cords that attach due to normal daily activities. Etheric cords that attached at and around the sacral chakra (emotions/sexuality) tend to be associated more with romantic partners. Romantic partners that are both present and past (including those who you fantasize about).

So, to even get back to “ground zero” (what I call the scene that happened that caused a person to leave), you would take that number of days and divide it by 7, and the sum would be the amount of candles you need to burn simultaneously to get to the present time to start reconciliation or Come to Me work. It may take some time burning candles to bring back a lover and I can discuss this more in depth when you book a consultation with me.

It can be said that the longer you are apart, the harder it is to get back together, so consider your actions when you are in a fight. It might be that you need to evaluate the intensity of the issues before swift action is taken and might be final.



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