“You know, u got it bad when you’re stuck in the house
You don’t wanna have fun it’s all you think about
U got it bad when you’re out with someone
But you keep on thinkin’ ’bout somebody else
U got it bad – “You Got It Bad” – Usher


Obsession is described in the Mirriam Webster dictionary as compelling motivation or a persistant disturbing preoccupation with and often unreasonable idea or feeling. A person feeling obesessive will think, talk, worry, and plan or base their life around a thing or another person to the point of losing all rationale or caring about their own selves. It as if every waking moment is thinking about the other person, so much so that all action and in somecases, existance is deemed impossible without the object of obsession, whether that be a person or a thing. Wanting something or someone is one thing, but having a healthy self esteem or a logical thinking pattern in relationship with another is the difference between liking or loving someone and actually feeling like you cannot live without them.

Once there was a person that, by their admission, was doing a “lot of work” (spiritual work) for their particular relationship issues. A. Lot. Of. Work. There was scheduled work being done on their ex, their children (with the ex), the newer romantic partner, the family of the newer romantic partner…I am sure you understand what I am saying.

Because this person knew that they had ordered a lot of work for one particular rootworker to do (candles and such), they did not want to ‘bother’ that worker to ask if the work had started, as that particular worker had a history with them of being late in sending a quick e-mail or text to the client to affirm the work had been started. This particular person (the client of the rootworker) would then:

a.) Get readings done with other readers to acertain that the work did indeed start.

b.) Ask finite and exacerbatingly detailed questions as to the effaciousness and outcome of the work being done by the rootworker, and

c.) Wanted a timeline as to when the success would come or present itself of the work that the other rootworker was doing for them.


What has manifested here is that this particular person has time to sit and take each and every word that her contracted rootworker said and broken it down and dipped it in a sauce called Doubt.

Doubt comes in when despite someone trusts a rootworker so much so that a vast amount of funds, time, or energy has been placed into a situation that they expect a blow-by-blow report of the rootworkers success BUT doesn’t want to upset (read: p**s off) said rootworker and so goes around the rootworker and inquires about the work being done or the success of the work. They trust the rootworker enough to pay the bill but because their obsession is not matched with the speed in which the rootworker is engaged with the client, it causes doubt in the mind that micromanaging the complete situation in regards of the spiritual work being done is the only way the client can express or release some of the pent up anxiety that they have. There needs to be some clarification in order for these two people continue to
work together.

First of all, there is no guarantees of 100% success that you will get what you want. Why?

Because your rootworker is not G-O-D.



Remember the movie, “The Devil Wears Prada”? The character Andi, played by Anne Hathaway, is so “obsessed” to work for a certain magazine (people think this is Vogue magazine, but it could be others as well) that she let down her friends, her boyfriend, her co-workers, just to be Miranda’s (the editor) best “assistant”. To Andi, Miranda (played by Meryl Streep) was “God” in the fashion world, and could make or break careers in couture with a sneer or a scathing word. Andi realizes not is all good in Miranda’s personal life, and ultimately finds herself making a choice to possibly a life alone because of her obsession, or return to the Andi of the past – lesser paid but happy with her chef boyfriend, It is the classic “Be careful what you wish for and the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence” type of message that needs to be delivered in other situations.

The only person who will make that decision for you to be with someone is that Higher Power that has many names. The work the rootworker does is to aid and assist your desires and petitions for a successful outcome, but your Spiritual Protectors will not place you in a situation that does not favor you, abuses you, or hurts you. YOU place yourself in that situation sometimes by being obsessed with a person who is not a good choice for you. Obsession will remove all logic from a person’s mind and make them do things that is out of the ordinary for their character.

So how can you free yourself of an obsession? First, you must consider the saying, “If it quacks like a duck…”. Despite it being somethiing your Grandmother probably said, the truth is still in the words. If a person or a thing is not satisfying you in an easy way in order for you to concentrate on making positive changes in your life, you have to consider the object of the obsession.

Secondly, value yourself. If you are not being treated like you treat that person, the “love scale” is tilted towards that other person, and you are left wanting and in need.

Lastly, learn to be solitary. This word sometimes is identified as single, alone, without, lonely but this is far
from the truth. Learning to move through a certain portion fo your life does not have to be lonely or any other emotion that you are feeling. Being solitary means you only have to listen to what you want and then act upon those ideas. To stay in solitude for some time is to strengthen yourself and to clarify and identify exactly what you want and need, without having to second guess your decisions or capitulate to another who does not like what you have chosen.



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